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Could you please convey a request to charities, etc, organising sports or other events with giveaways such as t-shirts and plastic bottles to please consider giving away those little flashing lights you can attach to your t-shirt or shoes or bag? I see a LOT of people exercising on the roadside early mornings (well done!) but a lot of them are dressed head to toe in black. Not one reflector, no way of seeing them.

Instead of yet another plastic cup or cap or bottle or whatever, how about a couple of those little flashing lights, one for your t-shirt and one for your shoelaces, or for a bag, for those walking to work, or for bicyclists with no lights? Let’s make the roads a little safer.

Along the same lines, kudos to the Prospect Red Bay Community Group who won an award and recently gave away safety alarms to homes there. Very generous of you, and a fine example.


Auntie’s answer: Technically speaking, I am not really answering a question, but you have inspired me with your great idea, and I am hoping this column will provide a forum to pass it on.

I have been both a participant and an organiser of charity runs so I am able to speak from experience. Forgive my bluntness but no one actually needs the assorted – for want of a better word – crap that is often given away as an incentive to sign up for one of these events. Some people may use the t-shirts and plastic bottles, but I bet just as many add them to the pile of similar stuff they have already collected.

However, a flashing light has a true purpose; anything that can increase safety for runners on the road, now that is worth something. I realise these can be bought at any sporting goods store but I do not have an issue with them being offered as a giveaway at a charity run.

Having said that, I also believe that the whole “help a charity and get free stuff” thing has gotten way out of hand. When did donating to charity for the sake of giving turn into what we have now? One definition I found of charity is “the voluntary giving of help, typically in the form of money, to those in need”. Nowhere does it say that the giver should get something in return.

Before anyone yells, I understand that giving away stuff does increase participation in these events, which increases the money raised and is ultimately good for the non-profit involved. I will also concede that when the event includes a raffle, the numbers tend to go up.

But I just want to make the point that I miss the good old days when a charitable donation was offered just for the sake of charity and helping the community. The reward was in the giving.

Let me offer a personal anecdote which may help explain my feelings on this topic. As a member of a non-profit, I am involved in organising an annual walk/run to raise awareness and funds. One year, I returned a call from someone interested in registering who had left a message, so I knew her name. She wanted to know if we were giving out t-shirts since nothing was mentioned in the online description of the event.

I told her that we were not offering t-shirts, that the organisation was small, but we managed to do a lot with very limited resources. I also expressed my hope that as we grew we would eventually be able to afford to give away shirts.

I ended the call hopeful that my message got across, and every day I would check the list of new registrations for her name. I looked in vain; the woman, clearly disappointed about the lack of t-shirt, did not register. I know I certainly was disappointed.

That episode also comes in stark relief to those generous people who, even though they knew they would not be able to take part in our walk/run, insisted on registering and paying, because helping was the point.

I just want everyone to remember that.

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